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You lived at my place for a long time. You and the couch were best friends. I’m glad you’re free of your demons and at peace
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Betty McKendrick uploaded photo(s)
Friday, March 29, 2019
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“Gringo Starr” & “Seester”
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Betty McKendrick posted a condolence
Friday, March 29, 2019
Hard to believe a month has gone by. I miss seeing and being with my Bruddah; we were together everyday; through thick & thin.
A large part of me is missing. How I long for the New System when Jehovah God, “will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore”. Rev 21:4. Paradise here on earth! I so look forward to seeing my dear Bruddah again, our parents and all our loved ones whom we’ve lost. May Jehovah God continue to comfort us, help us to endure and surround us with His “loyal love”. Your Seester
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mitchell lund posted a condolence
Saturday, March 9, 2019
Rip my brother we had some times WAIF on
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Marybeth McKendrick uploaded photo(s)
Thursday, March 7, 2019
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Bill and Bobby out at the Lake Point "ranch."
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Bobby and Haley
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Betty Ann MCKENDRICK uploaded photo(s)
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Brothers!
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To his friends & co-workers at Sharp Transportation
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Heather Hervey posted a condolence
Wednesday, March 6, 2019
Bobby has been a part of my life as long as I can remember. I used to chase him with the garden hose, splash him in our pool. When we were older I would drag him to Rancho to swim. From birth through high school we were always together Bobby had the patience of a saint he drove around the malls downtown while he waited for me and Paula to shop. I have a million more memories of Bobby I think I will just keep with me for now, not sure how to live without him, because living with him in my life was an amazing time. Until we meet again I get all the peanut butter!
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Debbie Martinez Hoppe posted a condolence
Tuesday, March 5, 2019
McKendrick family...
What a beautiful tribute to Bobby, your little brother. How blessed he was and you BA to have been there for him.. taking care and being a “big” sister. So much love and prayer has been and will continue to you all. My first memory of Bobby was him bouncing up and down in his crib. So many memories with the entire McKendrick family. Bobby.. you are the lucky one now.. you are in heaven with your momma and dad and all who love and have missed you.
With love and sincere condolences... Debbie
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Betty Ann MCKENDRICK posted a condolence
Tuesday, March 5, 2019
Bobby arrived earlier than expected, to the delight of our parents, on July 1, 1963. This would be the only time he would make an early arrival; as “Bobby time”.
Hard to believe the hulking 6’3”, “kid” we all knew, was once so tiny, our Mom bathed him in a mixing bowl! Our Aunties, used to laugh, “he looks like a little newborn bird that fell out of his nest”! As a teenager, he exploded in growth; eating his cereal in a mixing bowl similar to what he once bathed in! To accommodate his long legs he’d push the front seat of his vehicles so far, we joked, just drive from the back seat! Finding pants for his long legs was a challenge. Once, after purchasing a pair of Levi’s for him; my husband thought they were for him; until he held them up and they were taller than he was! “These must be for Bobby”! During one of his growth spurts, our Mom gave our older brother Bill, his baby brother’s hand-me-downs!
Bobby was truly a gentle giant. He disliked arguing, or fighting with anyone; he’d walk away from conflict rather than contribute to it. He developed a disappearing routine that left many of us who loved him frustrated, and often worried. We quickly learned, avoidance was his way of dealing with things most painful for him. He simply pretended they didn’t exist. He would hide, seek out shelter, as his way of deal with things, generally consisted of isolation and seclusion. On occasion, when unable to cope, he uwould choose to disappear from everyone. Then resurface, act as nothing were wrong; aggravated with us for being so concerned. Bobby was especially uncomfortable opening up too much. Yup, Bobby kept a great deal of his feelings and emotions tucked deep inside. Only those who truly loved and close to him, could see beyond the barriers he sometimes put up.
When he decided to move and live in Jacksonville, FL; he was able to grow much closer to his “Big Bruddah”. He listened to Billy’s wise counsel, guidance and love; he came to develop into the man we all knew he truly was and could always be. Bobby enjoyed developing a closer relationship to our brother Bill, and with our nephews and their children. But his heart was here in Utah; and after 8 years, he returned home. Yes, all of us who loved and missed him were thrilled.
Bobby had a quiet, almost awkward shyness to his personality and not too overly social. Yet people were drawn to him. Everyone who met him, liked him, and quickly became his friends. Wherever he went, people from all walks of life seemed to gravitate to him.
He had a compassionate, caring and tender heart; especially towards those who were down or having a tough time in life. Our Mom & Dad raised us to be compassionate and kind; to show love towards all people, regardless of where they came from, how they looked or what side of town or side of the tracks they lived. We enjoyed growing up in a large, loving and uniquely mixed, sometimes complex family. We didn’t grow up wealthy; but our parents always ensured we had what we needed, and gave us most of all, their unconditional love. It’s sometimes difficult as siblings not to compete for our parents attention. Billy being the first born, number one son, so accomplished, talented and intelligent. We had a big mountain to climb to try filling his shoes. Me, being the only girl, middle child, I was often rebellious and sometimes demanding. Well, my brothers had no desire to fill my shoes. Then, there was Bobby; the baby of our family, needless to say, he was pretty spoiled. But when I think of it, we all were; loved beyond measure! Mom showered Bobby with so much love; he was her baby son. I didn’t quite understand as an adolescent, but later came to appreciate the incredible love a parent has for their child when I became a Momma. Bobby was indeed special; and Mom seemed to know, he needed her tender care just a wee bit more at times than the rest of us.
Many years ago, Bobby fell into a darkness; but beat the odds and came through it. Once he became focused, he chose not to return to bad choices that once sabotaged his early adulthood. We were so proud of him! With the love and support from his family, Bobby found strength and determination to take on the battle until it was no longer a threat to his life and well-being.
In early 2017, startled by his declining appearance not acting himself or “feeling right” some thought, perhaps he may have slipped back into the life he left 25 years ago. But this was not the case; it was far worse than any of us thought or expected. It was after his abrupt decision to leave his trucking career, we realized something was definitely wrong. But true to form, he ignored what frightened him by trying to avoid it. We thought, with a couple much deserved months off from the grind, a break from the road, he would bounce back and be okay. Sadly, that would not be the case. Only after I threatened to hire a couple of thugs to drag him to the hospital, did he finally agree to let me take him to a Doctor. Please, do not neglect your health, get a colonoscopy! Please, do not let fear keep you from getting it done. Bobby said, it was during the procedure that he experienced the “best sleep he had in years”!
Unfortunately, the results were devastating. Who would have ever thought, Stage IV colon cancer! Cancer!! How does one hear that word and not feel complete shock?
Because we lost our beloved Mom to cancer, the look of undeniable fear was clearly visible all over his face, sheer terror evident in his eyes. Yes, if there was ever a time my brother wanted to run and hide, believe me, it was that day, and I wouldn’t have been far behind him. All we could think of, as we sat in stunned silence, was the horrific ordeal our Momma went through. Although it was 33 years ago, the pain was very fresh. Shock quickly turned to anger! No, cancer, you are not getting another one; you are not getting our Bobby!
We were always there for one another, so, no matter what Bobby needed, however he chose to attack this, I was going to be right by his side! We were going to fight this together! And we would not be alone, as we have an incredible loving family and circle of good friends. Together, we ensured he would never be alone. Our precious Mothers last words to Billy, “I’m so worried about Bobby”. I was determined to fulfill my promise to her. Mom, we were here for Bobby.
Over the course of his illness, he would often get frustrated and angry with me because of my “over bearing, controlling” and “smothering” ways. Can you imagine?!? My brother getting irritated at me, his bossy and controlling sister? He lovingly nicknamed me “Aunt Bea” from the Andy Griffith show. We would burst out laughing when Aunt Bea would fuss over everyone and take total control. Yes, even her short, chubby physique was spot on and brought us to tears laughing! Yup, I am Aunt Bea!
Bobby fought as best he could through chemo and 28 days of consecutive, aggressive radiation treatments. We hoped afterward we would have some good news. But in early October 2018, the CT scans showed little change. Unfortunately, the tumors that spread to his liver were showing “aggressive growth” and the few tumors in his lungs also growing. Such a discouraging outcome after witnessing him endure these often agonizing treatments. It was that day, Bobby said, “enough”. It was the end of any discussions of more chemo or radiation therapy.
There comes a time when you decide the quality over the quantity of your life. He chose to embrace and enjoy what good days he may have had left, and try to be with the people he loved. He was incredibly thankful for each day he made it through. We prayed and gave thanks for the good days we shared; and for much needed strength, endurance and comfort to handle what bad days that were sure to come.
At the end October of 2018, we were told, Bobby had “maybe 6 months". That day took a toll on his outlook and dimmed his hope for a possible long-term recovery.
By late January 2019, with his weight dropping, our once, virile, strong 6’3” brother of 280, was reduced to a frail, weakened and skeletal existence of what he once was. As too many of us know, this disease is vicious and relentless in its attack!
It continued to take an aggressive toll on him. This has been such a heart wrenching ordeal for all of us. But to have a close-up, daily view of what was happening was almost too much to bare.To see him waste away to such a fragile shell, tore my heart to shreds.
But I must share with all of you, how incredibly proud I am of my Brother! His shear determination and tenacity to fight; not give in to this disease was nothing less than remarkable! Yes, he had his moments of pure anguish, but, just like a new born colt with spindly legs, he kept trying to “get up”, until he was no longer strong enough to continue. There comes a time when the reality is too obvious and we have to accept what we had fought for so long to avoid...We were losing our precious Brother.
Bobby reached the very limits of what any human being should ever have to endure! To see the sadness and fear in his eyes; trying to keep his voice heard, to express his feelings, to make amends to those he had hurt, and seek forgiveness from the one whom he could not forgive himself for hurting the most, Halie. His fear robbed him of so much precious time. His heart truly broken in defeat. Not seeing his precious daughter since she was 3, was a pain almost too much to handle. He wanted so much to answer her questions, to seek and ask her forgiveness. To put both their hearts at peace.
I am delighted to say, he was given that opportunity on the Saturday before he passed. Yes, his baby girl, Halie, graciously responded to my call. Although she had given birth just 7 weeks earlier, and dealing with her own emotions, I am so proud of her incredible strength, character and willingness to provide her Dad his final days of true peace. Where would any of us be without forgiveness, compassion and the love we have been shown from our family and friends when we’ve struggled and then managed to put our lives back on track?
When we approach Almighty God and beg for His forgiveness, are we not thankful that He is a merciful, loving and forgiving God? We are imperfect and not God. Judgement truly belongs to only One, the Almighty Creator. All the more reason for us to be willing to forgive if we are ourselves seeking forgiveness.
On behalf of my Brother Billy, myself, and the entire McKendrick family, we want to extend our appreciation to Lori Lujan for her love, devotion, support and caring assistance with Bobby. We also are extremely grateful for our family, loved ones, many friends and neighbors who have unselfishly gave of themselves and surrounded Bobby with their love and support.
My dear little Bruddah, it was indeed my privilege and honor to be your Seester; to be here for you, love and take care of you when you needed me the most. You have always tried to be there for anyone who needed your help. You certainly were there for me, and freely gave me your love & support; especially when my life spiraled out of control. Your quick wit and humor made me laugh and kept me from drowning in self pity and sorrow during the darkest of days. Watching you suffer such incredible pain the past 2 years, has brought me to my knees more than once. But even though you were dealing with your own emotional and physical turmoil; your incredible strength, unconditional love and concern for my well-being simply amazed me! Thank you my precious Brother, for 55 years of joy, laughter, love, and sharing an unbreakable, unshakable loving bond as my Little Bruddah! I look forward to seeing you again, when Jehovah God through His Beloved Son, Jesus Christ, will awaken all who have “fallen asleep in death”, to a glorious Paradise here on earth, when His promise is fulfilled at Revelations 21:4, “And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore....” Until then, I pray for Jehovah, the “God of all comfort”, to wrap His tender, loving arms around us and help us to endure the sorrow and pain of losing you.
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Our Mom & Ashley
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Bobby, Keri & Halie
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Sweet Halie at Ashleys wedding
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Jet hero in training!
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Bobby & his Halie
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Grandpa & Bob
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Our Dad & Bobby
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Celebrating with Bug Bruddah & Nephews
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1963 - 2019
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